Tantra:Polarity Process

The Tantric Polarity Process

Copyright © 1995 Jeffery Tye

I will share another of my favourite Tantra/Sacred Sexuality processes with you. It is an effective prelude to the the Yoni Massage, the Lingam Massage, the Sex Magic process, or before other sexual activity. Enjoy.


The intent of Tantric/Sacred Sexuality is to experience and merge with the Divine (God/Goddess/All-That-Is) using sexual energy as the fuel or vehicle. Sexual energy is the most powerful force within the human body and can lead to profound spiritual experiences accompanied by intense physical pleasure and bliss. Tantrikas use their sexual energy with awareness, love and respect, for themselves and their partner.

Tantra views everything as energy, vibrating at different rates and manifesting in a myriad of ways (e.g., matter, space, time, forces, people, animals, objects, etc.). Harmony and peace are the result of energies being in balance -- life flows without restriction. Often, due to various reasons, the energies that make up the human body become unbalanced. This results in ill health, sleeplessness, sluggishness, pain, distraction, and many other unwanted conditions including unsatisfactory sexual performance.

The goal of the Tantric Polarity Process is to bring the body into a balanced state before engaging in sexual activity. The benefits are many, including deep relaxation (important for Tantric High-Sex), heightened sexual response and better health. The process builds trust and intimacy between partners, and is easy to do.

From the Tantric/Yogic perspective there are many energy centres in the body. The seven primary psychoenergetic vortices are referred to as Chakras (loosely translated as "Wheels of Light"), each having a specific function in the body. The most important one is the Heart Chakra. There are three Chakras above and three Chakras below the Heart Chakra. The upper three have to do with intellect and spirituality. The three lower Chakras deal with base human needs and emotions. The Heart Chakra balances the Spirit with the flesh. This Chakra is the seat of unconditional love and divine grace.

(If you aren't already aware of these energy centres or for more detailed information, I suggest you acquire one of the many excellent books about the Chakras and Yogic philosophy. Metaphysical bookstores are a reliable source for these books. "Wheels of Light" by Anodea is one title to check out.)


Allow 45 minutes for this process. Each step takes about 5 minutes. Allow yourself to relax and take your time. Deep belly breathing helps with relaxation. A shower or bath is recommended before this process.

The receiver is to relax, breathe deeply and receive. The giver is to be of service to their partner. This is an intimate process done with love and respect. The giver will be placing their hands on various parts of the receiver's body. This is done SLOWLY, with awareness, avoiding jerky movements.

The receiver is to be naked, laying flat on their back, with legs flat and spread comfortably apart. A rolled up towel or pillow can be placed under the neck for comfort. The receiver may become cold during the process and they may want to have a light blanket or sheet placed over their body.

The giver is to sit cross legged, on the RIGHT side of the receiver, with knees barely touching the receiver's body. The giver orients themselves in such a way as to be able to reach the receiver's genitals with the RIGHT hand and the top of the receiver's head with the LEFT hand. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT for the giver to find a comfortable position where they WILL NOT HAVE TO MOVE their body during the process.

Both giver and receiver spend about 5 minutes focusing on deep, relaxed breathing. THIS IS A VERY IMPORTANT STEP. Begin each breath with a relaxed belly. Let your thoughts and concerns fade away.

The GIVER rubs their hands together, creating heat. Shake the hands, away from the receiver's body, and flick the fingers as if energy were sparking off your fingers. Do this several times. Among other things, this energizes your hands and prepares them for touching the receiver's body.

The giver places their LEFT (negatively charged) hand, gently, on the receivers Heart Chakra. This is located in the centre of the chest, between the nipples. You are touching the most intimate and beautiful part of the receiver. This is their centre and seat of Divine essence. Become aware of their childlike innocence as your hand rests here.

The giver places their RIGHT (positively charged) hand, gently on the receivers Root Chakra. This is located between the anus and genitals. It is clinically referred to as the Perineum. This is the foundation of survival and human needs (food, shelter, money, etc.). It is also the place where a powerful force (Kundalini) emanates from.

The giver keeps their hands in place for 5 minutes. Just relax, keep breathing deeply, and visualize powerful energies coming from the earth and the universe, flowing through your body and streaming out your hands into the receiver's body. Become aware of your healing powers.

Keeping your LEFT hand on the receiver's heart, gently move your RIGHT hand to their genitals. If the receiver is a woman, allow your fingers to contact the clitoris and vulva. If the receiver is a man, cup your hand over the testicles and penis (Lingam). This is the seat of their sexual desire and procreative power. Keep your hands in this position for 5 minutes. Occasionally, gently rock your RIGHT hand to awaken this Chakra. The receiver will likely experience sexual arousal. This indicates that energy is moving in the body.

Move your RIGHT hand to just below the receiver's navel, the centre of their personal power. Keep your LEFT hand on their heart Chakra. Do this for 5 minutes.

You are balancing the lower Chakras, that deal with money, sex and power issues, with their sacred centre, the heart. You are bringing infinite love and wisdom into their human life form.

Move your RIGHT hand on top of your LEFT hand. Keep both hands on the receiver's heart for 5 minutes. Imagine all that you have to give, as friend, healer and lover, flowing from your hands into their heart.

Place your RIGHT hand on the receiver's heart and move your LEFT hand to their throat. Be gentle, do not press down and just let your hand rest gently on the throat Chakra. This is the source of their creative expression and communication. Remain here for 5 minutes.

With the RIGHT hand in place on the receiver's heart, move the LEFT hand to their forehead. This is the home of their intellect and psychic powers. Remain at this centre for 5 minutes.

Move the LEFT hand to the top or crown of the receiver's head. Keep the RIGHT hand on their heart. The Crown Chakra is their connecting point to the Divine and channels spiritual energy. Stay in this position for 5 minutes.

Gently, slowly and with total awareness, remove your hands from the receiver's body. At this point they will most likely be in a deeply relaxed and highly sensitized state. Withdraw your hands in a manner that they barely notice it. Slowly, silently, move your body away from theirs and stand up. Walk away from them, shake your hands, and flick your fingers again.

You may leave them in this state (lucid dreaming or meditative) or you can begin another sexual activity. The Lingam Massage or Yoni Massage is most effective after this process. Foreplay, including cunnilingus or fellatio, works very well, as the receiver is in a heightened state of responsiveness at this point. Have fun!

Namaste, Jeffery